The Buck Stops Where?

Tag: Happiness,Personal GrowthBeth and Neill

whos-pulling-your-stringsWho is in charge of your life?

Does your [tag-tec]happiness[/tag-tec] ever seem outside of your control? Have you ever blamed your unhappiness on someone else? If  so,

Did this person make large amounts money for you, amass your debts, form your relationships with others, and develop the behavior and attitude you have right now? We think not!

But who did? Yes, we’re talking about YOU!

If you are sick and tired of feeling like a puppet on a string, try this. The next time you find yourself blaming outside circumstances for the quality of your life, try identifying where you’re responsible for actions you’ve taken that helped create the situation.

You can do it!

Taking responsibility may seem uncomfortable or even unsafe at first, but it’s not that hard, you can do it! Once you do, you can start creating new experiences–experiences that we can almost guarantee you’ll enjoy more. No blaming or judging others, no disconnection from the ones you love.

“All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.”
~ James Allen

The first step is to notice when you find yourself in the middle of an undesirable situation. Use the experience to get a better understanding of what is important to you–figure out what’s missing in the experience that makes it less than comfortable. Then figure out what actions you can take to help you get those missing ingredients.

Save your time and energy–stop playing the blame game. Look at your past experiences and decide whether you want to do something to make this difference in your future, or not.

Try it this week. Once you’ve recognized something you want to change, take action. If you’d like a little more help figuring out how to do this, read our article:
How You Can Stop Being “Right” and Start Being Happy!