Inspirational Story – The Love Of A Mother

Tag: inspiration,ParentingBeth and Neill

A touching story we thought you would enjoy.

A little boy approached his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was washing dishes, and presented her a piece of paper. His mom dried her hands, took the paper from the boy and she read it very attentively, this is what it said:

Mowing the lawn: $5.00

Writing

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Cleaning up my room: $5.00

Going to the store for you: $1.50

Baby-sitting while you went shopping: $3.50

Taking out the trash: $1.00

Getting an A in math: $5.00

Cleaning up the yard: $3.00

Total owed: $24.00

His mother took a moment, and the boy could almost see the memories flashing through his mother’s mind.

After some thought she picked up the pen off the counter, turned the paper over that he had handed her, and spent a few minutes writing some things down, then handed it back to the boy.

This is what she wrote:

  • Nine months carrying you while you were growing inside me: No Charge
  • For all the nights that I’ve sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you: No Charge
  • For all the meals I’ve cooked, dishes I’ve washed, and clothes I’ve laundered through the years: No Charge
  • For all the trips to the doctors, hospitals, and principles office: No Charge
  • For the toys, clothes, and even for wiping your nose: No Charge
  • Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is: No Charge.

As the boy read what his mother had written, a big tear rolled down the side of his face. He looked straight into his mother’s eyes and said, “Mom, I love you.” And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: “PAID IN FULL”.

Even as adults we sometimes forget how much our parents did for us and it’s not until we have children of our own that we truly realize the love a parent has for a child.

A mother holds up her child.
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So if by reading this you are reminded of your mother’s love, stop for a moment and, if she’s alive and lives near you,  give her a big kiss and tell her how much you love and appreciate her.

If she is far away, call her. If she has passed away, think of her fondly and enjoy the memories.

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Parenting Perspectives – Not Always the Same!

Tag: Parenting,Personal GrowthBeth Banning

Two Parents, Two Points of View

At times, [tag-tec]parenting[/tag-tec] can be a difficult job. Sharing your parenting responsibilities with another person is often stressful as well. it can be a tricky situation when two people are [tag-tec]making joint decisions[/tag-tec] about [tag-tec]raising children[/tag-tec]–especially if you have differing points of view.

When you become a parent, there is no job description, and you don’t get a handbook. You have to make thousands of important decisions that you are sure will impact the lives of people you love dearly, and this can be very taxing.

When you are raising children with another person, you want to share that responsibility, and at the same time it can be quite a challenge. Especially when you need to agree on a decision but you disagree about which strategy is best.

This is true regardless of the circumstances that surround your [tag-tec]co-parenting[/tag-tec]– whether you live in the same house or you’re co-parenting with a separated or ex-spouse. Either way, making joint decisions from separate perspectives is not an easy task.

“The trouble with being a parent is that by the time you are experienced, you are unemployed.” ~Unknown

What Really Matters Is the Childsafe and happy

The key here is remembering to keep your attention focused on what’s important for the children. Don’t get distracted by the “who’s right / who’s wrong” game. Keeping what is most important for the child’s well-being at the forefront is the first step toward success.

How can you get on the same page as the other parent when they have a much different perspective?

Start by taking a good look at the situation. It is pretty likely that you both want the same basic things for your children; to be happy, healthy, successful, etc. If you can begin your discussions by focusing your attention on what you each value that is driving the strategy you prefer, rather than the specific strategies themselves, then the rest will start to fall into place.

Begin with an alignment about what you each want for your child–what you want for them at deeper more values based level. This alignment will help you end up with fewer disagreements, fewer arguments, and greater sense of cooperation and satisfaction for everyone involved.