Have you ever thought about all the time people spend grumbling about what they don’t like? Are you tired of hearing yourself and other people complain? What if all the time and energy people spent complaining could be channeled into fixing what it is that they’re dissatisfied about?
We all have complaints. Whenever we’re irritated or frustrated, it often seems like the first course of action is to complain. While it may seem that voicing our complaints is a way to relieve stress, complaining actually distracts us from the cause of our dissatisfaction and prevents us from improving the situation. Over time, constant complaining can create a feeling of hopelessness that keeps us from experiencing the happiness we seek.
“Realize that if you have time to complain about something, then you have the time to do something about it.”
~ Anthony D’Angelo
Feeling unhappy is a signal that something important-something we value-is missing in that situation. The key to finding authentic happiness is learning to dig beneath the surface complaint and discover what you value that’s missing. Then you can decide which actions you can take to do something about it.
Next time you hear yourself complaining–Stop–Identify what’s missing for you in this situation and decide on one action you can take in that moment to experience what you want. Give it a try and let us know what happens.
Beth and Neill
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