Overcoming the Roadblocks on Your Way to Success!
In part one of this post, and we talked about how the following cycle saps your motivation:
Limiting Beliefs -> Thoughts -> Actions -> Results -> Limiting Beliefs
We’ll pick up where we left off, explaining how you can discover the gifts offered by a painful past.
As young children we crafted each of our limiting beliefs as an attempt to satisfy some need we had that was very important to us in that moment. Unfortunately, limiting beliefs are almost always geared toward the negative goals of protecting us from perceived danger or disappointment. And they are rather “poorly designed” in that they protect something that we value, but at the cost of other values of equal importance.
“Every small change at the root level of belief will produce amazing changes in behavior and performance.” ~ Harry Alder
Understanding Allows Conscious Interpretation and New Possibilities
The good news is that we can lean to use a limiting belief to discover all of the values we hold as deeply important to us. And knowing clearly what we value can provide us with our deepest sources of inspiration and motivation.
In this way, every limiting belief holds within it a new possibility of personal motivation waiting to be exposed. Here’s a simple process you can use to discover the limiting beliefs that my be sapping your energy. Using this process you can discover a wellspring of self help motivation that lives deep within you.
The process begins by asking yourself these five questions:
- What do you value that is lacking in the current situation–what’s missing?
- What do I believe that is causing the absence of what I value?
- What is the belief protecting me from?
- What else do I value that this belief costs me?
- What would I need to believe in order to experience everything I value?
(My new, Empowering Belief.)
Answering this last question identifies a belief that will replace the old one. It is the compelling image of your future that draws you like a magnet to the life you want to create. It is the source of inspiration and motivation that will move you into action
Engineering Your Own Motivation
Let’s apply these questions to the following example. Let’s say you notice you’re feeling nervous about asking for a raise, so you STOP and answer the questions. Your answers may be:
- Since I’m feeling nervous I may be missing a sense of self confidence.
- A belief that may cause my lack of self confidence may be something like “I’m not good enough.” (How could you feel self confident with this belief?)
- This belief may be protecting me from being disappointed.
(You may have created this belief as a child when your parents did not pay as much attention to you as you hoped. The belief was designed to protect you from experiencing disappointment about not receiving the appreciation or recognition you want.)
- The belief may prevent me from experiencing the disappointment of being turned down for a raise. But it also ensures that I will not receive the appreciation or recognition I want.
- “I am worthy of appreciation and recognition. My sense of confidence and self worth does not depend on other people’s opinions.”
Once you’ve identified the new belief that better serves all of your needs, it’s time to start taking the actions that will help you experience the truth of this new belief. Identify specific actions you can take right away that will reinforce a new and empowering cycle:
Empowering Beliefs -> Thoughts -> Actions -> Results -> Empowering Beliefs.
Success Breeds Success
As often as possible, reinforce the cycle by creating your future from a compelling image of what success and happiness means to you. Your successes with the process will provide you with the motivation you need to continue reprogramming your limiting beliefs
Each time you practice this process, it will help you program an empowering new belief into your mind. As you continue identifying these new beliefs and the actions needed to experience them, you will develop fresh skills for navigating around whatever roadblocks may stand between you and your success.
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Until next time…
With great love and a commitment to your success,
Beth & Neill
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