Are there relationships in your life that aren’t going the way you want them to? Are you trying your best but things don’t seem to change? If so… Relationship intelligence includes knowing exactly what you want, and then knowing how to create a conscious intention that will help you get it.
Do Intentions Really Affect Your Relationships?
The short answer is yes! Intentions are a simple yet powerful tool that you can use to set your desires in motion.
You might want a more peaceful and harmonious relationship with one of your parents. Maybe you want to create more connection and trust with someone you love. Perhaps you crave a more supportive relationship with your boss; or maybe, after work, you want more fun and connection with friends. You can create an intention for any relationship that you would like to improve.
But What Are Conscious Intentions?
Whether or not you are aware of it, you have an intention every time you interact with someone. Even an unconscious intention can be sensed by others, and if they sense that you are dissatisfied with the relationship, they will often take this personally and interpret whatever you do as criticism.
Unfortunately, when this happens it creates more problems, the opposite of what you actually want–a better relationship.
If you’re dissatisfied with any relationship in your life, we suggest that–before you spend another moment with that person–you create a conscious intention for your relationship.
Relationship Intelligence Starts with You
Decide what qualities you want in the relationship, and then use these qualities to create your conscious intention. Use positive language to word your intention.
Here are some examples: “I intend to have more fun and adventure with my spouse,” or “I intend to create a relationship based on connecting and having fun with my sister.”
Don’t write an intention about what you don’t want, or use negative or pessimistic language. Avoid sentences like, “I don’t want my mother to nag me anymore.”
Notice that conscious intentions are expressed as values, or qualities of life. Since what you focus your attention on grows, if you spend a few minutes every day reading your intentions out loud, they are more likely to happen.
Do Intentions Really Work?
Try them out and see! Pick a few relationships in your life where you would like to see improvement. Then write down the qualities you want to experience with that person. Begin with the words, “I intend….” Make sure you express what you want in positive language.
Every day, take a few minutes to read your intentions out loud, and then notice how your relationships begin to change for the better.
As we so often say… the shortest path to a happy life is found through conscious choice.
Beth and Neill
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