Got Stress in your Relationship?
Do you want to relieve some of the stress and tension in your relationships? If so… Learn the difference between reacting to a situation and responding to it. You might ask, why would this make any difference to me ?
Reacting versus Responding
We say this over and over again, the shortest path to a happy life is found through conscious choice. Almost every time I find myself upset, frustrated, or confused about my relationships, if I look close enough, I always discover that I’m reacting unconsciously to something that’s happening in the situation. This unconscious reaction has become a habitual pattern–created from my old negative limiting beliefs. When I discovered that over 50% of all my stress and tension came from the fact that I was reacting rather than responding in situations I was able to start down the path to creating more happy, healthy satisfying relationships.
So what’s the difference between reacting in responding…
In the Art of Conscious Connection eCourse, we define reacting, re-enacting past behavior based on my habitual patterns and limiting beliefs, opposed to responding–which we define as, the ability to take respon-sibility for what occurs and make conscious choices about what to do and how we want to act.
How do you begin taking respon-sibility?
The first and easiest step to start practicing responding rather than reacting is to notice how you feel–am I tense, uncomfortable, irritated… As soon as you notice any emotion that is less than enjoyable, STOP and ask yourself these questions: “Am I about to do or say something that I might regret? Is there something I want to consciously do or say in the situation that is different than I was about to do?
You might be surprised at how differently things start to go in your relationships.
As Einstein said, the definition of Insanity is, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Until next time…
with love and a commitment to your happiness