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Sep 09

Relationship Advice – Tidbit of the Week

Tag: Personal Growth,Relationship AdviceBeth and Neill @ 6:56 pm

This Weeks Relationship Advice Tidbit

Are you enjoying all your relationships? How would you like some relationship advice that is guaranteed to Help.

We believe the quality of our life is created by the quality of our relationships. Think about it, unless you’ve chosen the life of a solitary monk living in a cave, your life is filled with one relationship after another. Your family and friends, the people you work with, the person that delivers your mail. Even all those momentary relationships you have with salespeople, servers and restaurants, and the clerk in the grocery store. The list goes on and on.

How much more wonderful would your life be, if each time you interacted with another person you both left feeling satisfied?

Are there any you would like to improve? Are you enjoying the relationships you have with your all your family and friends, what about your boss, colleagues or employees. How is your relationship going with your kids?

The Gift Of Presence

If you want to improve, enrich and strengthen your relationships, we suggest the very first step is learning to give the gift of presence. Now, we don’t mean anniversary, birthday or Christmas presents…  The presence that we’re talking about is the gift of listening to the other person without thinking about yourself at all.

“If you want to be listened to, you should put in time listening.” ~Marge Piercy

Being present for another person doesn’t mean just hearing their words without you talking. It involves you putting your self aside for a moment so that you can really hear what’s important to the other person. When you give the gift of presence, you’re not only demonstrating to the other person that you care about them, you’re also opening the only door to discovering solutions that will be satisfying for everyone.

So next time you notice yourself starting to defend your position, believing you’re right, thinking that the other person is wrong, or giving the other person advice about how to change, STOP… and try giving the gift of presence. What if you got to lose, except maybe a whole bunch of stress, frustration, and pain.

If you’d like to discover other related relationship advice articles, you can start by reading: “Are You Playing Together So That Everyone Has Fun?” http://www.focusedattention.com/articles/Relationship-Advice-Are-You-Playing-Together-So-That-Everyone-Has-Fun.htm?blog

Committed to your success,
Beth

4 Responses to “Relationship Advice – Tidbit of the Week”

  1. Joanne says:

    I really like what you have to say about “presence” and the gift of listening. There is a new book that is on the market since June 2008 that is a helpful resource for those who want to learn how to be come a reflective listener. It’s called PLEASE LISTEN TO ME! and is written by Dick Fetzer. It can be found on almost any online bookstore or directly from the publisher at http://www.WinePressBooks.com

  2. James Goksina says:

    Very useful info..thanks for sharing! adios 😉

  3. Raymundo Lugo says:

    Hey, I really enjoyed this thread. There are a lot of great comments here. I am going to do a little research on this and come back and write a relavant post.

    I will be checking back soon to review more articles like this and this website as well.

    In the meantime…. Stay blogging!

  4. The Gift of Presence says:

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