What’s Fair is Fair?
Are you concerned with the fairness in your relationships? Do you expect everyone involved in the relationship to do their part if they want to share the benefits? Some say that, in order for a relationship to truly work, both people need to contribute equally. This focus of your attention may be leading to the intimacy problems in your relationship.
Many people labor under the assumption that only when a relationship is truly “50-50” can it be a better, happier, more intimate relationship. Unfortunately, this is simply not true. We think it’s a myth that should be dispelled.
Why? We find it’s the people who truly believe in this myth who most often find themselves unhappy, frustrated, and lacking the most intimacy in their relationships.
What Do You “Expect” from Your Relationships?
This happens whenever someone sits around and expects others to behave in certain ways–ways that they have decided are “doing their fair share.” This is a recipe for disappointment. Keeping score is no way to keep your relationship, even a married relationship on smooth and solid ground.
In fact, expecting others to act certain ways or do certain things to “make us happy” actually limits our ability to be happy. If we want to be truly happy then we need to embrace the idea that we are the only ones in control of our happiness.
When you stop expecting particular things from your relationship, you can start working towards happiness, satisfaction and true intimacy in your relationship.
You Can Have What You Want!
This means taking full responsibility–being 100% responsible for your own happiness. This doesn’t mean you stop trying to get what you want from your relationships. It means just the opposite, if something is missing, you take responsibility for making it happen, and this can be done with or without your partner’s help. When you figure out how to get what you want, you can’t help but be happier, more satisfied and create a more intimate relationship.
Don’t leave your happiness solely in the hands of others. Start being 100% responsible for creating true happiness and a deeper sense of intimacy in all of your relationships starting right now.
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