Can Anger Be Useful?
When you find yourself getting angry, do you make an effort to stop, or to “control” your anger? If so, this quote is for you.
“Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.”
~ Harriet Lerner
Emotions happen for a reason. Whether you are happy, sad, angry, or whatever, that emotion is trying to tell you something. Anger is one of those emotions that happens to be more difficult to listen to because it causes you to feel uncomfortable. And from a very young age most of us were taught that uncomfortable feelings must be controlled.
Think about this: instead of controlling your anger –talk to it–try to understand what it’s attempting to tell you. Asked yourself: “What do I value that is missing in this situation?”
Practice Taking Your Anger By The Ear
When you practice listening to your anger and discover the underlying causes of it, you will be more likely to avoid straying down the path to hell where anger often takes you.
Any emotion, even anger, is a signal that can help guide your life. When you listen, you can hear a brighter future calling you down an different path.
Once you get the hang of listening to your anger as a guide, you no longer need to wait for full-blown anger before getting off the path to hell. Pay close attention when you first notice those early feelings of discomfort. This is a great time to began questioning yourself about what’s missing and what you need that will help create the happiness you want your life.
wishing you peace and happiness,
Beth and Neill