But is Happiness Really a Choice?
Many people find it very difficult tomaintain a positive outlook when they’re constantly bombarded with news about how much suffering exists in the world.
Some people even express a sense of guilt about being happy when so many people go through extreme hardships of one kind or another.
Have you ever felt sad, frustrated, depressed or scared after listening to the news or reading the paper?
These feelings seem to be rooted in a sense of hopelessness about our ability to do anything to make a difference.
What many people end up doing is suffering sympathetically. While we are deeply moved by the suffering of people around the world, we believe the strategy of “sympathetic suffering” actually does more harm than good. We believe choosing happiness is important.
Here Are 5 Reasons Why.
The first reason is that, your pain servers no one
If you stopped breathing would other people breathe better? Try it out for yourself. Hold your breath, and then look around, is anybody breathing better?
The same is true about your happiness.
Can you think of one time when you were sad, upset or angry, and those feelings made a positive difference in someone else’s life? You can only give to others what you already have. It’s okay to be happy!
The second reason is that happiness helps happiness happen
Sadness shared does not reduce sadness, but happiness shared actually multiply happiness. Think about it. Remember, the last time you were with someone that was really happy, passionate or excited about something. Didn’t you enjoy being with them? Wasn’t their happiness contagious?
Why does this happen?
At a very deep level, all of us want to be happy and are drawn to whatever encourages and supports our own happiness. You see, it’s actually good for everyone when you’re happy!
The next reason is that what you focus your attention on grows
When you consciously focus on being happy, you will find more happiness in your life–Guaranteed!
This isn’t “new-ageie, magical thinking.” It is just the way our minds work. We can’t help but recognize and pay attention to those things that are similar to where we focus our attention.
You may have had this experience. When we bought our last car we thought it was so unique, but as we were driving home, we saw another one and continue to see more and more of them the longer we owned it. We couldn’t help but see that model because our attention was now focused on it.
So if it is true that what we all really want is to be happy, then focusing our attention on the activities and thoughts that contribute to our happiness is essential. It’s not only a good thing to be happy it’s actually important to be happy!
Another good reason is that saying so support success
“If you think you can or if you think you can’t, either way you’re right.” This famous quote by Henry Ford puts it in a nutshell. It speaks to the very essence of why it’s true: if you say its so–it is so.
Our thinking can be one of the most fundamental limitations on our ability to be happy–or to be anything else for that matter. So Don’t Worry, Be Happy
The final reason and we believe the most important reason to choose happiness is that…
YOU Can Make a Difference!
If you can learn to maintain your personal happiness, regardless of your circumstances, you actually can make a real difference in the world.
Give up the idea that you–one lone person–can’t make a difference. It’s not true. Just because there are so many things you can’t do anything about, doesn’t mean there aren’t just as many things you can do something about.
So the next time you feel hopeless about your ability to do anything to make a difference, remember: your suffering serves no one and may even be keeping you paralyzed–unable to do anything to support anyone, including yourself.
So is happiness a choice?
We say it better be!
So say it loud–and say it proud…
I Choose Happiness!
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