Why Do You Do What You Do?
Do you ever stop to think about why you do the things you do? Are you making conscious choices, or are you just retracing the same patterns of behavior you learned a long time ago. Do you think you might make better choices, or be a happier person, if you knew the reasons behind your actions?
Most people learn how to “behave” at a very young age. In fact, there is a self help book by author Robert Fulghum called All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. The point of the book is that the things we learned in kindergarten–share, play fair, clean up your own mess, etc.–are still applicable in our adult lives. Seems pretty simple, right?
The problem is that, although we learned these lessons, we were never taught the reasons why these things are important. For example, instead of being asked how we feel when someone shares with us, we’re told to share or else we’ll get in trouble. Because we learned to see the world through the perception of right and wrong or good and bad, we have problems as adults identifying the values that motivate our actions and behaviors. Not knowing what we value makes us vulnerable to the fear of judgment and to acting judgmentally toward others.
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
~ Mahatma Gandhi
Consciously identifying the values we hold makes it easier for us to understand where we are coming from and allows us to behave in harmony with those values.
This week, identify one thing you can do in relation to this awareness and take action. If you need support figuring out what actions you can take, click the link below.
Remember, the shortest path to a happy life is found through conscious choice.
Until next time…
Beth and Neill
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